Have you ever been confronted and talked to someone and then felt that something was hidden or not said the truth? When it comes to the important thing, of course the lie can cause big problems. Have you ever observed yourself lying? What do you do and in what way do you tell lies? Often we do not realize that there are certain attitudes and gestures when someone is lying. If this is realized, then it is likely that the lying person will be very shrewd in lying. But for those who are less able to act, hiding lies consciously will actually cause stiffness and become a signal that is easy to know indications of lies. Now, for those of us who want to know if someone is lying or not, being aware of these things can make it easier for us to detect them
The ways and features that will be presented below are not without foundation. If you observe and like to watch movies, soap operas, dramas, or any shows that are wrapped in acting, surely you agree that all the actors/actresses do is lie. Right? They are not being themselves and acting out characters and created stories. Some are convincing, some are doubtful. Now, based on a little bit of what I've learned in the world of theater and psychology, here's how to tell people are lying:
1. Know how he usually speaks
As a friend, you must know the usual way of friends or people you know when talking. There are things that are typical of each person when uttering something, whether when sad, happy, angry, and so forth. Usually this feature is also followed by a special gesture, such as the motion of the lips, hands, body, eyes, eyebrows and so on that each other have differences. Ways that are not the same as the way you usually do when talking can be an early clue.
2. Pay attention to the stresses in his speech patterns
A person who is under psychological pressure and pressure also experiences certain physical stresses as an impact. For example, an increased heart rate and rapid blood flow. This affects other physical activities, in this case, speech activity. Lying people tend to have an unnatural tone of speech and pressure. This is due to the pressure and consideration of the mind that tug in stating lies. Basically, stating a lie is something that will naturally put pressure on psychological, physical, and mental conditions. Therefore, the pressure that appears is greater,
3. Look at some of the signs and special gestures that appear.
Here are some signs and gestures that are often found in people who are lying;
* Minimal or no movement at all or even move excessively. People who are lying tend to 'freeze', do not often deal with the other person, and try to minimize their gestures. There are also those who actually move excessively. It was all an attempt to avoid the appearance of signs that he was lying. However, this can also be an indication that someone is lying.
* No eye contact. People who lie often avoid eye contact. Instinctively, he will avoid the gaze of the interlocutor. Eye contact in speech is a support and also stores additional information when speaking. By making eye contact, someone who is being lied to will pick up information signals that are not in sync with what is being said. That is why then there is also the scientific science of reading other people's minds through eye contact.
* Gesture other body parts that show a sense of pressure. For example mengkukur2, playing fingernails, blinking excessively, swallowing saliva many times, and other movements performed repeatedly. Feelings of fear, nervousness, discomfort, as well as a shadow of what would happen if he was known to lie will make people experience high pressure and do things that actually show anxiety.
* Look to the top right. Looking in this direction is associated as an effort to employ and cultivate the right brain to bring out the imagination, namely the effort to make the fabric of the story based on what has been told. Instead, looking to the left is associated as an attempt to summon memory to reveal the truth/fabric of the real story.
Eyes wide open and innocent. The habit in childhood that we still carry now is to open our eyes wide and make an innocent look, as if to say, "who? ....Am I at fault?!"We often do this when we were little when mama caught a pack of big bread missing from the refrigerator. !(^^)
* Paused speech. Not everyone has a great talent in making up stories and speaking fluently when lying. So, often found the conversation stopped for a moment and in an unnatural tempo. It usually happens when a part of a lie is about to be told, that is, when he is trying to fabricate a tangle of stories. This is where the story begins to be inconsistent and changing.
* Touching the nose and covering the face or mouth. This is also innate since childhood, which is a reflective response when someone wants to cover up something.
* High tone of speech. Lying people tend to raise their tone. Either because as an effort to affirm the information conveyed, increased emotions, or high pressure. This will be very easy to know if you have known the habit of talking to the other person.
4. Reduce / eliminate information that must be submitted.
Lying not only by saying things that are not true, but also by omitting information that should be said to the other person. This indication is actually easier to know because usually the fabric of information / or stories conveyed is not intact and raises many questions. The signs above will still show up. After conveying information in a convincing style, he will perform certain gestures, such as touching the nose or closing the mouth/face.
5. Ask the person you think is lying.
Of course, this method will also invite great risks. If, it turns out that your interlocutor is not lying, then this method will have a bad impact. Therefore, use this method if you have received many of the above signs and you are sure that your interlocutor has lied. However, allowing and not questioning people who are lying will also have a very bad impact, especially for the perpetrator. Therefore, this method is also a solution so that the perpetrator of the lie confesses and the problem can then be found a solution to be solved.
6. Use Intuition.
Believe it or not, humans are created to have intuition. In addition, man was created to tell the truth. Therefore, humans are basically difficult to lie and difficult to lie. Intuition is completely different from lust, because Lust is related to desire, so it is subjective. Intuition is objective and not based on desire. So feeling lied to and prejudging being lied to is not the same. Before believing yourself to be lied to, ask yourself if this is because of prejudice or because of your intuition. Even though you ultimately don't know if you're being lied to by the evidence, at least you know that someone seems to be lying to you so you won't believe it.
So, are you lying?
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